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    Jay-me
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    I started dating this guy when I was in grade 9 in 2005, I was 16 years of age, I dated other guys before him. I can say that time I knew less about love, but what I know is I always wanted to be with him, it just felt right to be with him. He was not always emotionally available for me, he grew to love me though though the years. He was not stable but I understood the teenage years. We dated until 2012. We grew very close, we shared many memories, we graduated fro high school together, we shared experiences of varsity. We then broke up, and dated other people. We both stayed in contact with each other and we both had one kids with people we dated on the same year. We kept communicating and shared the birth experiences of our children. We shared problems we had with the partners we dated, those that we have kids with. Then we stopped communicating, trying to move on because it was causing problems with the father of my son, same was happening to him. Eventually I broke up with the father of my child. I tried to communicate with him, but he was shutting me out because he was busy trying to sort out his relationship with the mother of his child. I moved on and dated other people. I keep having dreams about him recently, and think a lot about him. And yesterday we bumped into each other after along time, we sat in the car an talked. We were very open to each other about how our lives are. He kept suggesting that we should get back together and raise our my son and his son together, because we will always love each other. I kept playing hard to get, that I am not sure if I want him back, and I think he still want to play around, but deep down in me I wanted to get back with him more than everything. He took my number and I didnt take his, and he must be the one making the call, and since we spoke he has not called or text me. I wish he calls and I should let him know that I want to try out, but I am thinking maybe it is a sign that he is not serious about us getting together, or maybe he is not thinking about it, or maybe he took what I said serious and does not want to bother me. I dont know what to think, I am always holding the phone in case he calls me, of text me, he is taking my headspace like before and I dont like it, I feel like he paralysis me, I think too much about him as soon as he is in my life. Should I move on from this or should I wait for his call and tell him I still wanna be with him I am not sure

    #201465
    Anonymous
    Guest

    Dear Jay-me:

    You wrote: “I kept playing hard to get, that I am not sure if I want him back”-

    I would like to understand: what was or is the benefit, for you, in playing hard to get?

    If you told him that you too would like to form a family with him and raise your two children together,

    what do you fear would happen then, if you told him honestly what you feel and what you want?

    anita

    #201513
    Jay-me
    Participant

    When i was with him in a relationship, I was the matured one, the giving one. When I got the chance to look at our relationship from outside of it, I felt like he did not love me as much as I did, even now I still dont trust that he will be serious about us. And I also did not want to be like I have been waiting for him all the years we have been apart, but at the same time I felt like it was the chance for us to try again. And now since we spoke he has never made any contact. I guess it was just a conversation because he is not persuading anything. The problem about this whole thing is that it disturbs my mind a lot, as soon as he appears in my life, I think about him a lot, which I believe it is unhealthy,  my other thinking is to put the whole thing to the past and move on, but just like I did before, it keeps appearing in my future, it is something that will never end.

     

    #201527
    Anonymous
    Guest

    Dear Jay-me:

    You wrote that you “have been waiting for him all the years (you) have been apart”. Did he know that you were waiting for him, did you tell him then or at any time that you were waiting for him?

    You’ve been hoping recently that he will contact you and persuade you to become a family with him. But how can he know that you are interested in that when you told him that you are not interested?

    I figure if you don’t tell him, if you play games, how is he to know what you want?

    anita

    #201537
    Eliana
    Participant

    Hi Jay-me,

    Do you know where he lives or hangs out? What do you have to lose? You have waited long enough. Why not pay him a visit. Maybe he thought from any verbal or non-verbal cues you were playing “hard to get” because you did not give him your number in return. Also when you saw him, did you tell him he has been on your mind alot? Maybe this is the signs he is looking foward, as he is not sure how to proceed because you have been apart for so long. x

    #201539
    Eliana
    Participant

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    #201847
    Jay-me
    Participant

    I get mixed feelings about persuading this, I am afraid, that I will be the one again that is giving all the attention to the situation, maybe he forgot about it already, I tried to contact him but did not get any reply. I sometimes with there was a switch for on and off about how one feels about the other, I dont want to look desperate, I just want a mutual love.

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