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  • March 18, 2018 at 7:32 am #197925
    Anonymous
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    Dear Phyleen:

    I think that going back to your ex boyfriend is a bad idea regardless of there being a new flame in your life. The reason for my belief that it is a bad idea is the anger dynamic between the two of you. You have been arguing and fighting and making up repeatedly and for too long. Unless the two of you attended quality couple psychotherapy where the two of you successfully learned how to not automatically react to your anger, but instead, to effectively communicate while feeling angry, there is no hope that I can see for this relationship.

    If you pursued the relationship with your new flame, the issue of your anger will still need to be addressed. I don’t know about this new man, how he deals with his anger, with resolving conflicts?

    anita

    March 18, 2018 at 9:34 am #197973
    Patrick
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    Hey Phyleen,

    Take a step back and read what you wrote. Look at it as something that someone else wrote. I bet you will see that the answer is right in front of you. You need someone in your life that makes you feel good about yourself and makes you better by just being around him right? Well does your ex make you feel that way? Sounds like the new guy does. Sometimes we have to close one chapter of our life and open up a new one. Close the chapter on the ex. The new guy sounds like you won’t be having the problems with the fighting and back and forth crazy stuff. Let your family know that the new guy is right for you and you don’t need negative in your life.

    Now if I could only take my own advise!! Lol!!

    Hope this helped

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