Dear Saya:

The relief you feel when you think of ending the relationship is about ending the obsession. The obsession is painful. It is a painful way to live, as you well know.

If you are not currently attending psychotherapy and working on this, then you do need to end this obsession somehow. It is better to not be in a relationship with him than it is to be obsessed, I am thinking.

anita

Dear Saya:

Yes, I do. So to stop this suffering you are experiencing. And to prevent him from suffering anymore from your obsession.

Again, unless you attend quality psychotherapy to manage this obsession and start the healing process from the anxiety that is fueling this obsession.

anita