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  • December 24, 2017 at 9:27 am #183403
    Anonymous
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    Dear Shaun:

    To understand better I ask: how old are you now and how old is your brother; do you live in the same household still and ever since the experience you wrote about?

    Was there ever a mention of or a discussion of the matter between you and your brother and what is the current relationship between the two of you?

    anita

    December 24, 2017 at 10:13 am #183415
    Shaun
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    Thanks for the reply. Im 18 just now hes 16 we have an okay relationship I would say. Ive had alot of problems with mental illness over the last year and we drifted a bit but recntly ive been going out of my way to spend more time with him and wev planned to have a few beers in my room for christmas so out relationship feels fine. Its just this is always on my mind wev never spoke of it I dont know if that would help me or not. Do you think it could or is it better left unsaid?

    • This reply was modified 7 years, 3 months ago by Shaun.
    December 24, 2017 at 10:56 am #183427
    Anonymous
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    Dear Shaun:

    If you do speak to him about it, not when drinking beer or any sort of alcohol. Better be sober for that and better maybe not be alone in a room with him when having such talk, but be in an open space, maybe a bigger living room, maybe outside, maybe in a public place.

    Why do you think it may be a better idea to leave things unsaid?

    I think it is better to tell him that you are sorry for what you did, tell him the specific behaviors you are sorry for, over how long you did those behaviors, that it was wrong of you. Don’t excuse your behaviors when talking to him, telling him you were or are mentally ill and that is why you did these things, or any such thing. Instead be factual, give him the facts: what you did, and that it was wrong of you, that you regret it and feel very sorry that you did.

    Let me know your answer to the above question. And if you do choose to tell him what I suggested, you can practice by typing it here first, get my feedback, and proceed from there.

    anita

    December 24, 2017 at 11:03 am #183431
    Shaun
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    I think it would be good for me to tell him how i feel im just scared of what he’ll say to be honest but telling how i feel would be the right thing to do. Thankyou for replying.

    December 26, 2017 at 4:24 am #183645
    VJ
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    Hi Shaun,

    Perhaps you may want to take a look at a similar post on another thread of this website.

    https://tinybuddha.com/topic/feeling-guilty-over-sexual-experimentation-with-younger-brother/#post-183641

    You can read others opinion too.

    I have posted my response in post#183641

     

    Warm Regards,

    VJ

     

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