Dear Shemar:
“stressful beyond belief… just numb”- overwhelmed is my word to describe what happens before a person goes numb, stress overwhelming the brain, so it shuts down some of its functions and that numbness follows.
To lower your stress level imagine the worst scenario that you fear: would it be losing your home? Prepare to what you would practically do if that was to happen and relax best you can as you think and imagine this possibility. Do so repeatedly. Then do the practical things that need to be done, one thing at a time, trying to look at just what is in front of you, not too far into the future.
anita