Hi Nez,

I don’t have too much to go on with your post, but from what I understand, you are currently in a relationship, and cuddling with someone else, yet view it as “casual”. I am wondering why you don’t want to cuddle with your significant other and choose this man instead. I think if I were the significant other and I saw my boyfriends head in another woman’s lap, I would feel betrayed. No, this is not casual. Any kind of touching is not casual. I do think you need to re-evaluate your current relationship, and find out what is making you unhappy to make you want to cuddle with another man. Just some thoughts.

Dear Nez
I find it helps to distinguish between hugs & cuddles.
Hugs can in general be short or long to share happiness & also to console to be shared with loved ones & strangers of both sexes.
For me cuddles have a more intimate nature & can lead to more intimate encounter of a sexual nature.
Then there is something inbetween where you are totally comfortable together where I think of the person as a brother & he thinks of me as a sister & are happy to snuggle up & watch a movie together. When either of us are in a relationship with others we just have a quick hug as a greeting or farewell & still call each other bro & sis. We are quite a huggy group.