Dear Martha:

You wrote: ” I am trying to apply to jobs in dallas and If I move to work there maybe that can be an excuse to leave”- you shouldn’t need an excuse to leave. It is your right to leave a boyfriend for any reason or for no reason at all.

The physical attacks have to stop, not a single one is to be tolerated. No matter the reasons.

When a person loves another, that person does not attack the supposed “loved one”- not physically and not otherwise.

Unless the relationship changes immediately, to exclude any and all physical violence, it should be ended, as soon as it takes to walk to the door and leave (have someone gather your belongings for you, later).

anita

Martha

It is not love when someone abuses you. When you love someone, there is a mutual respect, a deep friendship, mutual attraction. I personally think you should leave this unhealthy relationship. By staying is saying you will accept this ongoing abuse…and that your self love and self respect is not a priority. Right now you need to put yourself first..and your happiness. People say they will change..sure for a bit than they go back to the way they were. You will find someone who loves and respects you as you would to them…than that’s a happy and healthy relationship. Put it this way, if you had a young daughter who was in a relationship like you are in right now….what would you say to her?

I think you know what the answer to this situation is…find the strength to do what’s best for you.

Macy