Dear Ashley:

“When will things get better?” is the title of your thread. Will you be “able to see the light at the end of the tunnel”?

Healing from the emotional abuse you suffered from both of your parents who “have negative narcissistic personalities” has been on and off, correct? You felt good after the last stay at the mental unit, following your Jan 2016 attempt “learning how to heal from emotional abuse and starting therapy.”-

But then life kept getting in the way, and  you are living with your mother and in otherwise trying circumstances and it is overwhelming.

For things to get better, to be able to see the light at the end of the tunnel, it takes ongoing, continuous healing work, not the stop and go kind, but ongoing. To be engaged in healing day in and day out, for as long as it takes, requires that we make thoughtful choices regarding the circumstances of our lives: where we live, with whom, how we support ourselves, who we interact with, and so on. The circumstances of our lives have to be such that allow and encourage healing.

Learning skills, such as being assertive, and practicing it will help you greatly.

Do you have plans regarding how to mother your child; how to be a good enough mother to your child?

anita

Hi Ashley,

I wanted to reply to your first e-mail, and the title of your thread “when will things get better”?

But your 2nd post confused me, and I’m not sure if you are still wanting advice? Is your 2nd post saying things “are better” now?

Dear Ashley:

I believe you asserted yourself in your second post where you wrote that you “need someone to just really listen to us sometimes without the lecture”, and so, I would  like to respect your assertion, your clear statement about what you need here. I can do so by attentively reading your sharing, then repeating what you share, perhaps, using my own words, so to let you know I understand what you shared (and giving you the opportunity to correct my understanding, clarify or add), without asking you questions or making suggestions. If you would like me to do that, let me know.

anita