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  • June 20, 2017 at 10:47 am #154260
    Anonymous
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    Dear Smiley:

    I think that it will be a good idea for you to “permanently close things with him” because “his actions highly contradict his words”- there are other reasons, but this one is enough. His actions highly contradict his words on a regular basis. As you wrote, he has a “‘mixed signals’ habit”.

    It is not a good idea to have a relationship with a person with a mixed-signals habit. It is adding confusion and distress of the unnecessary kind, into your life.

    anita

    June 20, 2017 at 11:05 am #154262
    Steven
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    One thing to think about: Christians (and most people who ascribe to some sort of religious/supernatural belief) bring an entirely different mindset/lens to their thinking and perceptions of the world.  Their worldview is, in large part, based on fear, and their compulsive beliefs in their own inferiority and worthlessness. They are told their ONLY value is in “God” and that without GOD they are nothing.  They will spend their entire life attempting to overcome this sense of “worthlessness” in many different ways. Some choose to become “super Christians” spending countless hours in prayer, Bible Study, and church attendance. Others will attempt to defuse these feelings of inadequacy by defending their faith and attacking those who don’t believe. Still others will project all of these confusing emotions onto everything and everyone around them.

    My point is that, as a non-believer, you simply can’t see this as simple religious differences. It goes much, much deeper. You may want to point out to him what his own Bible says about being “unequally yoked”.

    Good Luck,

    Steven

    June 20, 2017 at 3:24 pm #154318
    Eliana
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    Hi Smiley,

    Yikes..ooh..boy, right up my alley, with online dating relationships. I have been in so many I’m embarrassed to say. Social media such as Facebook and Google Plus to Online dating sites. And from my unfortunate experiences and warnings from my friends (whom I never listened to), these “relationships” never worked out.

    There were alot of reasons why, and most is what you mentioned. Mixed signals, different religious beliefs. Although in my case, alot of the men I met were out of the state, and some were even out of the country, such as Iraq, Pakistan, Israel, Egypt..you name it. Boy, I wanted it to work. I was infatuated, in like, in love, bonded emotionally, fell in love, we would use Skype, WeChat, Facebook Messenger, Hangouts, to videochat, they were the first person I saw in the morning, last person I saw at night. After about two months, I found out this guy was using a fake profile, after asking me for money, after him telling me he was going to come visit me. I did a reverse search image on his profile picture, and he had stolen someone’s military picture. This was after I had fallen for him.

    The other guy ended up “Catphishing” me, he did not love me like he said. He just wanted to use me to get out of the middle east and come to America. I still have not gotten over him. I guess what I am saying, is that I saw alot of doubt and hesitancy, uncertainty in your post. There is too much conflict going on with this person and that is a red flag. Not something you want in the long run. Many people on line show their best self at first, but it’s just show, then when time goes by, that’s when you see all the obstacles and hurdles.

    I would say go with your gut. I’m not saying everyone online is “bad” but you do have to be careful, so many unknowns. Let me know your thoughts.

    • This reply was modified 7 years, 10 months ago by Eliana.
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