Dear Adele,

sorry to hear about your relationship(s). You are used to “bad boys”, who represent illusional fun and excitement even though in reality such relationships do not offer emotional stability and safety, which do not mean that the relationship would be boring. I hope that you will find ways to heal your inner wounds so that you do not drift into damaging relationships any more.

About the spark  – it either exists or not and you cannot “make” it. It is essential to have it to create a deeply satisfying sexual connection in the long run. No matter how perfect someone looks “on paper”, you cannot guarantee that there will be chemistry.

It is time to respect you and your boyfriend. You are not a match made in heaven and you need to admit it. Continuing with the relationship does not satisfy either of you. It does not mean that you still could not be friends with each other! Friendship in the true sense is much more valuable than an attempt to create a romantic relationship with a person, who you are not compatible with. It takes some courage to admit the facts, but it is the only way to lead an authenthic life.

All the best to you! 🙂

• This reply was modified 7 years, 11 months ago by Susannah.