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  • April 26, 2017 at 8:41 am #146807
    Anonymous
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    Dear Aart:

    “Living a monotonous life” for more than 10 years, “on the bench” at work, unmarried at 33 in Indian society, strained relationship with parents.

    Question, if I may: why don’t you “dare to take a trip to (your) dream destinations”?

    You wrote: “I have become conscious about not sounding negative”- another question: what caused you to try to not sound negative?

    Here, you are allowed to sound negative, so please do share that negativity.

    anita

    April 27, 2017 at 1:44 am #146927
    Aart
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    It’s the fear of unknown , fear of being alone all over the way keeps me away from taking a trip. Though I’m introvert person by nature I  don’t want to be alone. I don’t have friends who can accompany me on this. My parent or siblings are busy with their own schedule. And moreover they think I have many other things to fix before taking any leisure vacation. I know things like career, marriage, finances are important and need to be fixed but not sure how to and where to start with.

    Yeah I try to not sound negative because I have heard comments from the people around me in past that i don’t sound positive and I have hardly talked good about anything. I have a fear of loosing people because of this negativity. Why I should bother others who are not very close to me because of my issues my thoughts.

     

     

    April 27, 2017 at 2:44 am #146941
    VJ
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    Hi Aart,

    Reading your first paragraph itself made me think that you may be from India, especially when I read the word “bench”  🙂 . I am an IT professional from India too. I have also been on bench a couple of times. So that I could try to suggest something can you tell what are your IT skillsets and in which city are you looking for a job and a soulmate? Also, are you looking for in a specific caste?

    ~VJ

    • This reply was modified 7 years, 12 months ago by VJ.
    April 27, 2017 at 7:29 am #146957
    Anonymous
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    Dear Aart:

    You wrote: “Why I should bother others who are not very close to me because of my issues my thoughts”?

    Because I want to know, so to suggest something that might be helpful for you to feel less lost (title of your thread):

    Please share more about your issues and your thoughts. You wrote that you don’t want to be alone. How long have you felt alone- were you a lonely child? You mentioned a parent; what happened to the other parent? What is your relationship with that parent now and how has it been?

    anita

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