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  • March 16, 2017 at 8:03 pm #139959
    Anonymous
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    Dear norit:

    In general, better give an opinion when asked.

    In the context of your friend who vents a lot to you, it is not fair for you to be a sounding board for her and nothing else. You need to be heard too.

    If I was you, I would be asking her questions based on what she shared, so to learn about her motivations, her conflicts, to understand her better. Asking her questions will promote my understanding and give her the opportunity to understand her own situation better. Then, with better understanding maybe she will come up with new ideas, and maybe you and the two of you can share those ideas.

    Did I answer your question, norit (I am not sure)?

    anita

    March 17, 2017 at 8:24 am #140055
    norit
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    You did anita, thank you.

    Everyone I know usually gives an opinion whether they are asked or not, the exception being therapists. Very rarely does anyone ask for my opinion, except for professionals, or on here (you!). I have very few friendships, but they share their opinions whether asked or not. Even in general conversation, I don’t really know when to talk or just listen.

    I’m over analysing I think!

    March 17, 2017 at 8:34 am #140057
    Anonymous
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    Dear norit:

    You bring up good points, I believe. Maybe people don’t ask for opinions because they don’t have to ask, that is people give it asked or not! People don’t desire things that are overly-available but seek for what is rare.

    Regarding when to talk and when to just listen- it is something I consider myself, often enough, when I am inclined to talk while it is a better idea not to. In your case, being inclined to not talk- what if you aim to talk more than you currently talk, just more, and see how that works for you?

    anita

    March 21, 2017 at 12:58 pm #141033
    norit
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    ‘People don’t desire things that are overly-available but seek for what is rare.’

    So very true!

    I’ll give it a try. Thank you anita. 🙂

    March 21, 2017 at 6:25 pm #141045
    Anonymous
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    You are welcome norit, always a pleasure to communicate with you. Thank you for being here.

    anita

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