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I am so much pain… please i need some advise.

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    Tsveta Borissova
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    He broke up with me after three years together. And we rented a home, it seemed like he was going to propose. Took me to the mall to see what types of engagement rings I liked. Took me to the bank to see if we qualify for a home loan together. And one day six months ago he just told me that he has lost his attraction for me. I understand that sometimes this happens, but till the very last day he used the words I love you… And I found out that he started dating his current girlfriend close to a month before he left me. Now I can see that she might not have known about me at all. Going back now I see all the signs that he replaced the girl before me with myself the same way. If I had known that he was involved, I would have never gotten together with him. I wonder if someone had warned me about him, would I have listened?! Do I warn the new girl? When he was leaving me he said that he always looses interest in his partner. That it always happens to him. If that’s the case he most definitely will hurt her too. But she probably won’t believe me. My problem is that I can’t seem to move on. It hurts too much. I am 36 and the new girl is definitely much younger but looks so much like me… My self esteem is shattered. I am not an ugly woman, but he made me feel this way… How in the world do I get better? I’ve never hurt anyone in my entire life. How come he gets to be happy and does what he wants without consequences? While he is in a relationship he is the perfect boyfriend. There’s no sign that he will pull something like that out of the blue. He hides his true nature so well… I just need some advice as to moving on and getting on track again. I don’t want to be alone. I miss being with someone so much. I’m good to my partner and am always kind and considerate. Please, someone tell me how to cope???

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    Dear Tsveta Borissova:

    Too bad you went through such experience. I hope you will feel better very soon and that you will get into a loving, dependable relationship later, when you are ready.

    The man’s new girlfriend is probably not going to believe you at all because, as you wrote, he is the perfect boyfriend until he loses interest. You are the ex girlfriend, the one with the grudge, and so, not likely to be believable to the new girlfriend. Plus, you can not predict the future, so better not attempt to communicate with her.

    There is no way to will yourself not to feel this pain. It will help if you have no contact with him and with anyone associated with him. It will help if you socialize with people, go out, not get into a relationship anytime soon, but be around friendly people.

    It will also help to take care of yourself, as in daily exercise, maybe yoga, pursue an interest (healthy distraction), etc.

    anita

     

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