3 years of a situationship

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February 17, 2017 at 5:45 am #128001

Naive42long
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Molly,
Get away from this man as soon as you can. I’m sorry but he does not love you. I have been where you are. It was six years before I accidentally discovered that he got married while seeing me and telling me I was the only one. He was always too busy and he never had any money to do anything with me. Don’t make the same mistake I did. You deserve a man who will give you everything including his time.

February 17, 2017 at 7:53 am #128025

CooL
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Hi Molly,

You want more in a relationship and this man is unable to give it you. You’ve given him many opportunities to step up and he’s showed you he can’t. It’s not easy, but its time to let go.

February 17, 2017 at 3:40 pm #128113

Karolina
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Hello Molly.
Weirdly enough, I had unsubscribed from this forum a long time ago but out of nowhere I started to get updates again a few days ago and your thing came up. The reason why I am writing you is that I started seeing someone a few months ago who showed very similar traits to your man. I broke it off after two months, reason for it, he was absent for New Year’s Eve and I felt him pulling away every time we came too close or things got too intense.
But he would still want to continue this half committed thing. Anyways, it’s weird as I asked for a sign what to do, I have recently seen him and got along super well, yet again and realised that I might easily fall into the same trap again. As your forum entry popped up in my mailbox I am certain this is my sign. I think, that we deserve to have something real, everyone does. I want love in my life, full on, a partner who wants to share all those special occasions with me. Who is here to talk and share the little things in life. Don’t settle for less, my dear, it will only prolong the pain and keep you in limbo. Do state clearly what you want and if your expectations don’t match, well then you are just not a match. I am willing to give this guy another try, but my terms are clearly communicated. We should be wooed, loved, appreciated and have the chance for a great relationship. If after 3 years he’s still not sure and you can’t quite let go, maybe do try to communicate one last time what you want and need in your life and from him and stick to it. There is always something better waiting for you. Do trust this and know your own value. I wish you all the best. Hugs

February 17, 2017 at 6:15 pm #128127

JeniB
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Hey Molly,

You post really spoke to me so much so that I created an account just to reply. You mention you have HSV-2 and that he is the first person who has accepted with you. It was so hard for me to leave my ex even when I knew it wasn’t working for the same reason. I thought no one else would ever love or accept me because I’d only ever told two partners the first one said he couldn’t deal and left the second stayed so naturally I was afraid to go through that again. But guess what? I was alone for almost two years after my last break up and then the next guy I dated and my current boyfriend were completely accepting and understanding. Sometimes it’s really not as big a deal as you think! I am grateful every day for my boyfriend who loves me unconditionally. I think to have this conversation you want to wait (an delay the physical part) until you are really comfortable. For me the right amount of time was about six weeks dating. I was straightforward and presented it in a normal way without a lot of drama (something I hadn’t done at all with my ex) when you can accept yourself as you are and not think that you deserve less because of this, you will find more – I promise!

February 17, 2017 at 10:24 pm #128159

Mark
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Best advice is if you break it needs to be a clean, no contact break. It will be hard and youll need time, but time does make things better.

February 20, 2017 at 10:08 pm #128611
Molly
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Great words. Thank you for this.
- This reply was modified 8 years, 1 month ago by Molly.
February 20, 2017 at 10:09 pm #128615

Molly
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Wow. Thank you for the empowering reply and I truly appreciate you taking the time and effort to. It’s validating and supportive for me to hear this. So happy you’ve found someone who accepts you, I truly hope I can overcome this and find the same thing.
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