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  • February 12, 2017 at 5:13 pm #127286
    Nevasky
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    Im not sure if what i have to say is advice, but i have been though something similar.My younger brother is extremely abusive he attacked my mom couple months latter he attacked me in front of my kids in a way where i thought he may kill me. i warned his wife after that something not right it more then just mental, it a excuse and im only one in my family that believes it a lie. i told her that this will happen to her in due time. She called me a liar and horrible person for throwing my brother in jail. After that he turn friends i had since high school against me but in less then year he attacked her . So what have done i cut my self off from him and at first it was about anger but there this quote i found “There are two things a person should never be angry at; what they can help, and what they cannot” I cant help my brother i have tried for years and it hurts just yesterday i saw two kids playing outside and it reminded me growing up with him. I just dont need that in my life, ill end this on a light note “Decide you must, how to serve them best. If you leave now, help them you could; but you would destroy all for which they have fought, and suffered.” Yoda. Sometimes you cant help them and they have to fight and suffer on there own to see the right path.

    February 12, 2017 at 7:07 pm #127297
    Anonymous
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    Dear dom:

    In the U.S. there are shelters for women and children, some are very nice, like a group home with meals, toys, and counselors on-site. Those shelters are kept a secret from the (allegedly) abusive husband/ boyfriends- the condition for staying there is that the abuser doesn’t know where his wife and children are. If you live in the U.S., or anywhere else where such shelters are available, you may suggest it to the wife. You can look at “Helpful Free Resources” under HOME, above, left for such help.

    Even if your father agreed that his daughter-in-law and children will stay in his home, your brother will know where they are and will make it very difficult or impossible for them to stay with you and your father. If your father has the financial means he can help her get a separation, divorce, rent a place, etc. but that will take a lot of money.

    You are a caring 17 year old, only a child yourself…

    How old is your brother and how long has he been troubled- do you know the origins of his troubled mind?

    anita

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