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  • November 8, 2016 at 8:54 am #119925
    Anonymous
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    Dear Flora Rose:

    Welcome back! Before replying directly to this thread, will you share what happened with your last (first) thread? It is the same boyfriend as five months ago, correct? Did he since verbally express his feelings for you and did you find out his position about the relationship with you, where it is going and such?

    anita

    November 8, 2016 at 9:10 am #119928
    Flora Rose
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    Anita,

    Yes, it’s the same boyfriend. We are doing great and are in love, he expresses this often. No complaints there.

    November 8, 2016 at 9:17 am #119929
    Anonymous
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    Dear Flora Rose:

    I agree: if you push away your boyfriend, who is your rock, you will be devastated. It is clear to me that your irritability is connected to your distress outside the relationship, at work and in the drama with your family.

    Your involvement in the drama of your family, your father’s alcoholism and your sister speed addiction, is harming you. Got to extricate yourself from that drama. Your involvement in that drama can easily end up with an alcoholic father, a speed addicted sister (same as now) AND a very depressed, deeply troubled Flora Rose, and with your rock-relationship in the past.

    Save yourself, and extricate yourself. Can you do that?

    anita

    November 8, 2016 at 10:29 am #119933
    Flora Rose
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    Thank you so much for your kind words and thoughtfulness Anita. I really appreciate it. I have tried to remove myself to the extent possible from the family issues, albeit difficult. I will keep trying though, never give up.

    November 8, 2016 at 10:38 am #119935
    Anonymous
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    Dear Flora Rose:

    There is another option to “keep trying”- simply do it. Today. Let your father and sister know that you are not well as a result of your involvement with them and that you are withdrawing for the next two months (at the least), so to heal. Meaning, no contact for the next two months.

    And wish them well.

    anita

    November 8, 2016 at 11:41 am #119938
    Ninja
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    Dear Flora Rose –

    I fully agree with Anita. Don’t try to remove yourself from the issues with your father and sister. Just do it – today.

    When we get sick with colds or other illnesses, we are allowed the time to incubate, heal, re-strengthen and simply be alone. Similarly, you are not well due to your current dynamic. Of course, you don’t have to let on that they are the problem. That may only aggravate and intensify an already challenging situation. Just be selfish (yes, selfish) – and give yourself the gift of time to sort things out, cool down and heal.

    Wishing you peace today.

    Ninja

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