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  • October 12, 2016 at 2:20 pm #117961
    Lacy
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    Yes. It is doable.

    You can remain friends with a person if you don’t secretly expect and hunt for the old relationship.

    You’re going to have to admit that the past is in the past and the future will have something new for you. Let go of the past, remember it with a good word and be open for anything for the good future.

    One other thing when it comes to having been in love – it might help if you try to understand how this relationship with that person was validating your own ego. Often we “want someone who wants to be” with us only in order to get some validation on our own worth – are we pretty, are we smart, are we important, are we valuable – we all want to feel this way – and even though a person with a healthy self-esteem will feel pretty, smart, important and valuable no matter if they are in a relationship or not – we as fragile human being tend to be a bit comfy and seek confirmation from other people in order to feel right. It’s a good science, worth looking into if you feel like you can’t get over it.

    Take care o/

    October 12, 2016 at 2:28 pm #117963
    Mishika
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    hi crob,
    ok so if you both have decided to be just friends and off course you love her and want this friendship to turn into relationship
    you need to be patient. Just because you’re good friends doesn’t mean you’ll be good at dating. Give your new relationship time to blossom. Make sure your expectations aren’t too high. Let your relationship grow slowly. We live in an age where everything moves so fast that we expect instantaneous gratification or we get bored. Relationships and trust develop slowly. We need to have patience to let a relationship grow at its own pace. Some friendships will develop into a relationship at a tortoise’s pace. Let your anxiety go, be patient and remember: Slow and steady wins the race.
    Mishika

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