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  • June 30, 2016 at 2:04 am #108561
    Nina Sakura
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    Talk to him more, find out if he is available and then ask him out. Eventually that’s how it will be if these feelings will materialize into anything – a deep friendship or love. Soulmates is a rather intense thing which is rare and one only knows for real till they shed their perceptions of a person and see them for who they truly are – it’s not just about being nice or sharing jokes, something much complex to put into words – both feel this and unwittingly stay in each other’s lives whether or not romantically involved. There is an innate understanding, vulnerability and trust – ofyen unspoken signals understood because we know this person so well, as if they were a part of us only – but soulmates is really after we shed away our projections of what we want them to be and see them for what they are.

    June 30, 2016 at 2:24 am #108563
    Sarah
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    I have this problem with overthinking and psyching myself out, I have tried to ask him out but I can’t! Honestly, just talking to him outside of school is a hard enough task. I really like how you describe soulmates as being after the projections on each person is shed. I definitely agree soulmates is a big leap from not even being close, but I only came across the idea of soulmates when I was searching for a way to describe how I feel about/around him. I process emotions through writing about them and I can’t process this because I can’t find the words to describe it!

    June 30, 2016 at 8:40 am #108599
    Anonymous
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    Dear neverland:

    The feeling you have about this guy, that calm, I think it stems from the belief you are forming, a belief that the “universe” has a plan for you, a plan for the two of you to get together as partners in life, to love and be loved by.

    The thought of you being loved by this guy is very calming- that is what love does, it calms you.

    Normally you would be very distressed about starting a communication with a guy you are interested in and with this very guy you had many awkward moments already.

    But there is something new this time that is comforting you and makes you feel safer: that there is a power greater than you, this “Universe” that will take care of what is too difficult for you to do yourself; a power that will bring the two of you together.

    anita

    July 2, 2016 at 1:01 am #108710
    Sarah
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    Yes, I absolutely agree. I guess now I just don’t know if I feel this way because it’s real or because I have convinced myself that it is real. Oh how I wish I could read his mind or see the future!!

    July 2, 2016 at 5:40 am #108713
    Anonymous
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    Dear Neverland:

    So now it is a matter of faith: what you believe in. I don’t believe our individual futures are predetermined. And I don’t believe in a god or universe that is paying attention to my personal affairs. And I don’t believe it is possible to read minds- although it is possible to study a person’s facial expressions, body language and mostly, it is possible to study and evaluate what a person says and doesn’t say and what a person does.

    I think what is most important is for you to confront your fears of being hurt in a possible intimate relationship, and to interact with people authentically, get busy interacting instead of getting lost in abstract thinking.

    anita

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