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  • June 8, 2016 at 10:43 am #106728
    Anonymous
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    Dear Mish:

    “where do I even start?” are the last words in your thread. I would start with your interactions with your mother and father, removing yourself from their relationship drama- you didn’t create it, it is none of your doing and you need not suffer from it. Tell your mother to bad mouth her husband directly if she has to, and not to you. Tell your father to stay with your mother or hire someone who would, that you are too busy to take on his responsibilities.

    Then assert yourself at work best you can, tell your supurvisor/s that their scrutiny is not helpful to you and to their own objectives because it is not an issue of your icompetence, it is an issue of overwork. State this in your words, repeatedly if needed, calmly, simply and with confidence. Do not go belly up, stand up for yourself.

    How is that for a start?

    anita

    June 8, 2016 at 12:12 pm #106734
    Kayt
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    Hey Mish,
    First, I’m so sorry to hear about your dog. I know firsthand how difficult that is, and I hope the 10 years of wonderful memories can make you smile again. As for the boyfriend… if one party feels incompatible, then the relationship truly is incompatible. From the sound of it, you are very busy anyway, and your time is too valuable for someone with second thoughts! Chin up, try to view the lost relationship as time and emotional energy gained to use on other things that will make you happy. One door closes, another door opens- you will undoubtedly meet someone better suited in the future. 🙂

    I agree, as usual, with everything Anita has stated regarding your parents and work. It’s all great advice, especially about work. Sometimes superiors don’t communicate between themselves enough to know that they are individually over-delegating tasks to you, and because of this fail to realize you are overburdened. You should definitely let them know. If it’s too stressful to outright say it, maybe next time they try to give you a large task, tell them about the other projects on your plate currently and ask if there is a way you can have an extended deadline or some assistance from your coetaneous on either the new request, or on something(s) you are already trying to finish.

    If all else fails, remember, it can’t rain all the time! We’re cheering for you!
    Kayt

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