Dear tinysparkofhope,

I have gone through your post. Would you please take some time out and provide your response to the below so that I could suggest you something in the right direction.

1) What is your definition or understanding of the Law of Attraction?
Please elaborate as much as possible.

2) Right from starting the job search till today – What are the underlying emotions you are having?
Below are few examples I can help you start with-

frustration
tension
worry
nervousness
a lacking feeling of not having more
a wanting feeling because of the lacking feeling
Shame
Guilt
Desire (in a craving way)
Grief
Fear
Anger
Pride (in a demanding way)
Comparison of your life situation with others
When people complained you about their lives, were you taking on their feelings onto you? Think closely for a while.
…
…

Remove whatever is not applicable to you from the above list and add more. But make sure these are not necessarily only your current feelings. They should be listed from the time you have been trying for your desired job. To know the in-depth meaning of a word above, you can use the google search term as “define shame” which will show you Google’s dictionary meaning in an understandable way such as “a regrettable or unfortunate situation or action” which will then be easy for you to relate.

3) What kind of profession do you like?

4) What is that you think you will able to do which will serve other humans in some way or the other? Anything for the benefit of others? List down only non-professional work as opposed to point no 3. Think and try to list down multiple items. You can even list down certain things that you will be able to do after making certain adjustments.

5) What things of you bother others or yourself?
I procrastinate (or keep delaying things) and my wife doesn’t like it.
I keep things in a messy way
I am late most of the time
I am not organized

6) Identify and list if you are doing (or earlier did) anything incorrect? If you are uncomfortable about this then you can ignore it.
Just Examples:
I haven’t paid my friend back XX amount
I skipped paying a few cents at that grocery store
I am delaying to do this XXX

7) What are things you mentioned in your post as “I feel like I have many many things yet to learn”

8) List down all of techniques and retreats you have done so far. Don’t worry whether I will understand them or not. I have earlier undergone the techniques you mentioned, or at least read and understood them and so will be able to relate to your situation.

Below is a List to begin with..please add

EFT
Chakra healing
Practicing using the daily gratitude journal
Letting Go – Was this the Release Technique Or the Sedona method you did?
Numerology
Working with crystals
Feng Shui
Career coach
Meditation for 15 mins
Provide a list of any other self help courses attended

9) Daily Gratitude exercises
On all the Thanks statements you mentioned in the post, be truthful to yourself and tell whether they were said simply involuntarily or were you really thankful and grateful for all those things? Meaning – When you did the gratitude exercises was there that genuine “feeling” of thankfulness in your heart similar to when somebody did something for you and you said “Thank you” to them?
Was it the same level of feeling of gratitude equivalent to the grateful things you have mentioned as below?-
“I am still grateful for a lot of things in my life, I got a rented roof over my head still, I got great friends”

While writing a response to the above things itself, a deeper understanding on certain things will arise. Do not ignore paying attention to those.

Do elaborate as much as possible.

Also, people on this forum are ‘here’ to ‘hear’ you.

Dear tinysparkofhope:

I am suggesting you look more closely into the reality of what happened in your last well paying job, before you lost that job. I suggest examining reality more than you have so far before trying to fix it.

This is what you wrote about the reality of your job five years ago, I believe: ” I was deeply unhappy at work. Everyone seems to pass me their work tasks or blame me for every short coming.”

You were “deeply unhappy” at work. Everyone (every single co worker) seemed to pass their work to you and blame you for shortcomings?

You wrote about trying to figure out why this was so, why co workers didn’t like you: “I noticed a few secretaries making up lies about me about being incompetent in my job and not well liked by the bosses (I really not sure why, as I was quiet, friendly…”

It’s been years ago and you still don’t know why. The self help and other methods you tried were about Fixing-It but none of the methods lead you to insight about what happened at the workplace.

If you’d like, do examine it more, go back and try to remember what your co workers said, how they behaved… share here, if you so choose: maybe there is something I can see and suggest for you to look more into.

anita

Dear tinysparkofhope:

I am afraid I am quite lost in trying to understand what happened. I still want to understand though. I will be typing-as-I-think: it was a huge company, this means random things happen, things that don’t make sense as they would in a small, organized company. Downsizing is business as usual in big companies.

You did a lot of work for co workers who took advantage of the fact that they could excuse themselves and give you the work to do. Why would they turn against you then. If you did their work again and again, seems to me they would want you to stay and not spread a rumor that you are not doing a good job.

There is something you missed in the dynamic there: maybe you were too busy working till 11 pm, doing their job that you missed something significant? Maybe you were so tired from overwork that your work suffered? I don’t know.

I understand high school like cliques. But again, if you did others’ work, it seems to me that those others would be interested in not jeopardizing your position with the boss/es.

I wonder: weren’t you resentful, doing others’ work till late at night while they went home early? Did you confront those co workers? Did you expressed your (understandable) anger at being used to anyone at the company?

Will be back at the computer tomorrow morning (in ten hours or so). If there is anything you can clarify for me about my thoughts here, or add, please do.

anita

Hi tinysparkofhope,

Thanks for providing a detailed response.

Continuing with the same numbering system

1) You do have quite a good amount of understanding of the Law of Attraction.

Every spiritual teacher or master teaches it differently and it gets confusing.

Yes, practicing the Law of attraction got me very frustrated, just like you.

Yes LOA happens all the time. But the main thing is in the following and practicing (more below). Its a universal law governing the universe. Just like the law of gravity if a ball is tossed up in the air it has to come down.

2)

“being ignored, being old and unwanted, hopelessness, unfairness, unlucky, fear that I will never work again and live in poverty and shame especially compared to others who are able to find a job reasonably quickly, people would pass me loads of their work to do, it would take me to 11pm at night to finish while they all left at 6pm, i was given their work” – hard to say No

“I am forever their cheerleader” – people pleasing
“I get really disappointed if I tried some strategy to the t and results do not happen”
“tend to feel envy when people are doing so well in life” – jealousy
“I feel sometimes that it isn’t fair that they get to display such negativity and still attract such a great outcome.”
“I think they are unnecessarily ungrateful.”
– It is not they who are ungrateful, but if you look closely it is you who are feeling the ungratefulness towards them.
“so i kept low and did my job thinking that i must have manifested all this bad ill against me.” – keeping yourself low
“not practicing self love” – Look where ‘Love’ is on the below link when you get there
“i was doing all i can to get everyone’s approval of me” – wanting approval

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Take a look at the attached Hawkins Scale of Consciousness. I’m sure you’ll relate as to what is the frequency of vibrations you may be emitting. I do not want to dwell much on all these as you are already aware that these are not so good feelings and I want to head straight to an actual “action point” for you (more below).

“I feel sometimes that it isn’t fair that they get to display such negativity and still attract such a great outcome.”

It could also be that they complained about things by speaking out and thus unknowingly/unconsciously RELEASED all their negativity and so attracted favourable situations in life.
They may (or may not be) at a different situation at a later stage of their lives, but that is their karma and this is yours. So don’t bother much about them and leave them to what the Universe has to offer them.

3) Yes I can truly understand that it is not possible to start afresh again.

6)7) You are not doing anything wrong. You’re simply being human.

4)8) “i am a good friend, i cheer people up when they are down and would help friends out in a heart beat. Also I suppose, I can make people laugh.”

“I am good with planning stuff and researching places to go for family and friends.”

From this I think that you can be of great benefit to others.
More of these quality of yours referred below.

Now for the action point-
5) You need not spend any more on anything directed towards the self now, but something to start projecting them outwards.

One of the universal laws is the Law of Opposites and it works in conjunction with the LOA.
It states that no sooner will you call something into your reality than its exact opposite will also appear.
Meaning – the moment you chose anything, any outcome, or experience – the exact opposite of that will come into your life in some way.
It will show up in some way because it is necessary for the opposite to appear in order to create what you want. Life cannot be simply experienced out of nothing. There needs to be a context in which you can experience what you want.

This can be explained with a simple example:
If you want to experience Light then there needs to be Darkness. Can you see light when there is already light everywhere? You wouldn’t know what is light unless you saw darkness. Only when there is an opposite context field (darkness in a room), then you will experience Light (when it’s switched On), else everything is the same everywhere.

Speaking in real life, if you start to see the “oppositions” (a context field) of your life as opportunities to bring what you want, only then you will fully experience the positive outcomes that you wish.

We’ll not get much into it since I’m sure you may want to know of what to do next to get exactly what I desire in life.
(I’m aware you do not want to spend anymore, and rightly so, but just in case if further interested then you can explore Neal Donald Walsch’s ‘Conversations with God’, ‘Happier than God’, etc.)

Mechanism of Manifestation:
If you understand collective consciousness then note that you are not alone in this world. There are lives of other people also involved in what we do.

The Energy of Attraction is most effective when used for the purpose for which it was intended. (Another reason why LOA seems to be ineffective/disheartening because it is not used by people for the purpose for which it was intended)
What is that purpose? To create a happy, peaceful, joyous life for everyone whose life you touch, and for you, in that order. The last three words is the key. This could be done in several ways and in whatever way you choose.

In helping others, we shall help ourselves, for whatever good we give out completes the circle and comes back to us – Flora Edwards

Help others achieve their dreams and you will achieve yours – Les Brown

It is literally true that you can succeed best and quickest by helping others to succeed – Napolean Hill

You can have anything in the world you want if you’ll just help enough other people get what they want – Zig Zaglar

By focusing on others you multiply the amount of energy you emanate by the number of others with whom you do so. Give others every experience you wish to seek.
The fastest way to have any experience is to cause others to have the same experience. Whatever you wish to experience in your own life, cause another to experience in theirs.
If you wish to experience love, cause another to be loved.
If you wish to experience abundance, cause another to be abundant.
If you wish to experience success, cause another to be successful.
If you wish to experience forgiveness, cause another to be forgiven.
If you wish to experience peace, cause another to be at peace.

And this can be done in innumerable ways depending on what you are good at and what you enjoy doing the most, but keeping in mind it is at first for the benefit of others.

Since you now know several techniques and have spent so much, how about the possibility of starting a class or a study group for people having problems at least in a small way to begin with.

Something like just posting a print-out at a suitable place near where you live that says – ‘Help yourself by healing yourself’, ‘Get rid of your unwanted thoughts, feelings and emotions, and gain back control of your life’…by using these XXX simple techniques, at a nominal charge. You can even put up on the bottom of the same page on giving Travel planning services.
Or if you have a more inclination towards the Travel thing then you can do it vice-versa…Make the Travel line as your core by stating “Travel plans made easy!” giving all relevant details and on the same print-out mention at the bottom about the self help techniques classes. A set up (may be at a room in your home or only by phone) where people will just tell you their options like where they want to go (Domestic or International, a beach, or a hill station, or a wild life safari, an adventure package, 1 Day tour, or a weekend getaway) and what are they interested in (whether group tours or individual tours, or a honeymoon tour, or a corporate tour, or a senior citizen package, Solo, or a Family fun tour). Taking this data, your job will be to Research and Plan out their travel by giving them the quickest and best possible option(s) (since you said you are good at researching and planning things for people). Do this at a nominal charge in the beginning. Once again remember, while doing all this you are at your greatest best.

Initially you can begin with close friends and relatives and then extend as it goes. Since people are going to come to you with problems they are already going to be feeling down. In the same class you can use your skills of cheering these people up and making them laugh. Note that when you are doing this you are putting up a frequency of genuine joy, to yourself and to others. When you are doing this you are not worrying about a job. Although you can keep applying to jobs at the same time, but in a detached way you should reach a stage like – It’s fine if I get a job. Even if I don’t get that’s OK too…Im enjoying here.
This is why some releasing techniques teach us to release both good as well as bad feelings. You reach a state of bliss of no more longing to have anything because you feel that you already have all you need and that is where abundance starts to flow because you are emanating that.

Why not make use of something for the benefit of others from i] what you have learnt all this while by spending so much and ii] from what you are good at?

I know immediately a thought would occur as to how much you are going to earn by doing this? Is it going to be sufficient to fulfil my dreams and desires? Am I going to get customers? This is where our restricted mind will start to think all unwanted thoughts. For a change don’t take your thoughts too seriously.

The Travel line of business and the classes/study group are just examples of what you can do. But I hope you are getting the point.

Note that when you are actually doing all of this you are emitting up a frequency of genuine joy, happiness, cheerfulness and a state of bliss.
And this is when the Law of Attraction comes into play.
It is at this time things will start falling on your lap.
On doing so you will start attracting the right people, situation, circumstances and events because you are emitting that high frequency.
Either you will meet someone who could offer a job that you need, or someone in your class may have an acquaintance who has exactly what you need, or you receive a phone call from where you have applied for jobs earlier, or who knows you may want to continue with the travel/class itself as you are enjoying them….the list goes on and on and is endless.

The Universe has infinite possibilities and we do not know now what will happen and how things will be manifested.

Of course as humans it is not possible to be at those frequencies 100% percent of the time.
At those low times, refer to the above chart of consciousness and see where you are and quickly bring yourself back on track, either by doing the self-help techniques that you are already aware of, or by getting busy with the travel/class which gives you joy and thus those lower states start to dissipate.

9) If you are doing that genuinely then you may continue to do the Gratitude exercises as that is something you will continue to do irrespective of whether good or not so favourable situations are happening in your life. It could be very well that you are being returned to good things in life by you coming to this site.

I hope it gives more clarity to you. When things start to get better in your life, which I’m sure will, please do share your progress.

Also do remember to post your visiting card on this site so that I can be one of your customers who needs to plan his travel 🙂

Lots of Love and Light.

Take care.
VJ

• This reply was modified 8 years, 2 months ago by VJ.

Dear tinysparkofhope:

These are a few of the things you tried- persistently- so to improve your situation from the time before you got released from the high paying job (a year before) to the present:

The Laws of Attraction
Clearing your chakras
Various self help courses
Gratitude diary
Numerology
Feng shui
Career coach (briefly)
Crystals,
Mediating
Practicing EFT
Exercising
Learning new work related skills
Applying to jobs, including low paying
Hypnotism (CDs)
Tai Chi

There is something you didn’t try, as I see it: accepting the reality of that last job that ended five years ago: accepting the … negativity that you can do nothing about. That negativity, injustice was: a few people in the company had the power to give their work to others while being secure in their position because of their contacts, their power in the company. You didn’t have their connections, their power and so, you were expandable. You watched others taking advantage of you, felt understandably angry but decided to… get rid of your anger by starting a gratitude diary.

A gratitude diary is fine, but not if it is a substitute to seeing and accepting reality. What I mean by it is that your anger, needed to address it. That anger needed attention- you had to find a way, at the time, to stand up for yourself.

This is what you didn’t do: stand up to yourself. That was the valid message in your anger at the time. You wrote in one of your posts above: “I was resentful but did nothing! That is what I regret as I said before, not standing up for myself.”

All the things you tried were in place of standing up for yourself.

Exercise, tai chi, all those things you tried, they can’t take the place of being assertive.

anita